Although we tend to think of masturbation as a solo thing, it doesn’t have to be that way.
Sure, it’s lots of fun to crawl into bed or bubble bath alone, set the mood with some candles and your favorite songs and proceed to give yourself orgasm after orgasm, but masturbating with someone else – also called mutual masturbation – can sometimes be even better.
But if the thought of masturbating in front of someone else or watching someone masturbating in front of you doesn’t seem like your cup of tea, hear me out first. Here’s why mutual masturbation is so awesome.
It’s a great way to learn about your partner’s body.
You may think you know your partner’s body like the back of your hand, but there’s probably still a lot more to learn. With mutual masturbation, your partner can show you exactly what they like and how they like it. It’s basically the greatest tutorial you’ll ever receive.
It’s also a great way to show your partner what you like.
On the flip side, mutual masturbation also gives you the chance to show your partner exactly what you like and how you pleasure yourself when they’re not around. With mutual masturbation, so much more is learned and taught through actual hands-on teaching, as opposed to just telling each other during sex. It’s also a way to explore parts of your body and yourself that you may not have discovered yet.
It creates intimacy.
If ever there were a sex act that created intimacy, mutual masturbation is absolutely it. Because we live in a culture where masturbation is (for some) taboo and even for those who don’t deem it taboo tend to think of it as a solo act, engaging in it can create intimacy. You’re getting to witness and share something that’s far more personal than sex. It’s a fantastic way to bond.
It makes you realize there’s more to sex than intercourse.
We need to stop thinking sex is only penis-in-vagina intercourse. What constitutes sex runs the gamut and so many things fall under the “sex” umbrella. To think that sex is only P-in-V action isn’t just doing a disservice to sex in general, but a disservice to you and your partner too. Mutual masturbation is a great way to step out of your routine and enjoy something that’s different, enlightening, and deeply intimate.
Every time we touch ourselves, we’re celebrating our sexuality. Even if we don’t think about it that way, it truly is an act that comes with owning one’s sexuality and being proud of it. That alone is empowering. When you practice mutual masturbation, not only is the power in your hands as you get yourself off, but you’re sharing that power and celebration with your partner. For both of you, it’s an empowering experience worth giving a try.
It will make your sex life better.
Masturbation is paramount to having a great sex life because it keeps us feeling sexual and allows us to explore and try things on our terms. Combine this with masturbating with your partner, even if it’s not on a regular basis, and you can still reap the benefits but in a more intense way because you’re allowing yourself to be candid and open. Both of which are essential ingredients to a phenomenal sex life.