Catch Yourself Off-Guard

Waiting until you’re in bed to talk dirty can increase the pressure. Why not practice when you and your partner least expect it? End a routine “what’s for dinner” phone call with “I can’t wait to touch you tonight.” When you get out of the shower, tell your partner you thought of them while under the water. Still feeling weird about speaking up? Try texting your partner at work instead. The novelty alone will stoke the fire. Use these suggestions to get started:

• Be romantic: “I can’t wait to look into your eyes tonight.”
• Be alluring: “I’m wearing something just for you under my shirt today.”
• Be teasing: “I’ve spent all day thinking about what I’m going to do to you tonight.”
• Make a request: “Come upstairs and help get me out of these clothes.”