The Secret to GREAT Sex, and Better Relationships

By Tina O’Connor

Sex can be sex, or it can be GREAT. It’s the old “in-out”, again, versus the “let’s do that again, soon.”

What’s the secret to having out of this world sex? They’re soft, they’re supple, they’re powerful and sensitive…it’s your lips. Using your lips in the right way can help you achieve deeper intimacy, more pleasure and greater satisfaction in your life.

4 luscious ways to use your lips to get you more:

  1. Dinner talk. Communication is key. You’ve got to be able to express yourself in any relationship. Dinner time is a great place to chat about feelings or emotions. If you have a hard time talking, try writing your feelings down in a letter, email or journal. Get your feelings out, because you can’t read minds, and neither can they.
  2. Get the party started… before it starts. Gain momentum and increase sexual tension by promoting the event early. First, schedule your sex. “I want to have sex today”. Call, text, or email your partner early in the day and tell them your plan. Create anticipation and excitement. Send pictures. Send dirty texts. Give yourself more time to get in the game by planning it and then promoting it!
  3. The power of a kiss. Lips meet lips. It’s a peck, stolen in time. Then it’s head, neck and hair grabbing action as you press each other harder and harder into each other’s lips. Trying to get closer. Kissing is intimate. It can be quick, long, slow, rough, soft, wet. It can be on your lips, or deliciously placed all along the length of your neck. Kiss more.
  4. Dirty Talk. When you’re not kissing each other, use your lips to increase the heat between the sheets with your words. Talk to each other in the bedroom. Use your fantasies, talk about what you’re currently doing to your partner, and tell them what you plan to do them next. Use your sexy bedroom voice and your imagination to heighten your sexual experience. Ask your partner to talk dirty to you.

Pleasure, happiness, satisfaction are all in your head, but it’s your lips that can get you there. So, pucker up and give some lip service.


Tina O’Connor is an on-air personality and relationship expert who focuses on parenting, sex and lifestyle issues — with a feng shui twist. She is the author and creator of the popular “Be That” book series, whose titles include “Be That Girl,” “Be That Mom” and “Be That Kinky Girl,” providing women and couples everywhere with concrete strategies to achieve more balance, happiness, peace and success in their lives. With her straight-talking approach and dynamic personality, Tina gives real-world advice with a flair for entertainment.