By now you’ve probably figured out that sex toys aren’t just for solo use. Sharing them with your partner is a great way to take your sex life to the next level. But there’s already a lot going on during intercourse (at least, there should be)—how can you incorporate your sex toy into the action? As always, communication, comfort, and confidence are key. But the position you use is just as important.
Little black dresses, Ray-Ban sunglasses, The Beatles—some things just never go out of style. And there’s a reason the missionary position remains a classic: our bodies were built to fit together this way. When you and your partner are face-to-face, it’s easy to read and respond to cues. Many couples vibrators are designed specifically to accommodate the missionary position, with vibration points that stimulate both partners simultaneously.
The name might conjure scenes from the Wild West, but this one is basically the reverse of the missionary position: the receiving partner is on top, controlling the pace. With a sex toy, they can also stimulate themselves, either with a vibrator or by reaching behind with a dildo or other penetrative device. The partner on the bottom can apply the sex toy, too—or just lay back and enjoy a front-row seat to the show.
This position offers all the advantages of the normal rodeo position, while also giving the person on top better access to their partner. For women, this might mean clitoral or vaginal stimulation with a dildo, or, for men, a vibrator pressed against the prostate to fire up a super-charged orgasm.
It might seem counterintuitive, but sexy back is an ideal position for exploring new ways to use your sex toy—especially if you’re into anal play. The receiving partner can reach underneath to stimulate themselves, and there’s lots of room to use a vibrator on your partner’s clitoris or perineum in combination with the traditional doggystyle thrusting (which for many is a recipe for success).
Sometimes the simplest way of connecting is the best. Imagine all those times you’ve stood toe-to-toe with your partner and kissed them on the lips. Now imagine that same kiss with the dual stimulation of a vibrator pressed between you. As far as foreplay goes, it’s a great way to kick things off.
Up Against the Wall
It might seem like a movie cliché – lovers in the throes of passion pressing each other up against the wall – but there’s a good reason for it. A wall gives you something to lean against, whether your back or your front, while your partner has leverage to lift, spread, and get easy access to all those important places you might want to have stimulated directly with a sex toy.
Maybe it’s been a long day and you don’t have the stamina to maintain a series of fast-paced acrobatic positions. Or maybe you just want to take it slow and steady. Either way, the spoon position is the perfect solution for those marathon sessions of sex toy play. Lying back-to-front gives you a chance to relax, focus, and allows the partner in behind to use any number of different sex toys on any number of different erogenous zones.
I think we can all agree: whether you’re laying down or standing up, oral sex is pretty great. But great things can be made even greater and by using a sex toy – a vibrating ring, massager, or penetrative device – while giving oral sex can take your orgasms to places you didn’t know they could go.
While the traditional sixty-nine position doesn’t give partners a lot of leeway to move around and explore, laying on your side, facing each other, gives you and your partner a great perspective on where (and how, and how much) to stimulate each other. And because you both have your hands free, each partner can use their own device. Sure, it’s better to give than to receive—but nothing beats giving and receiving at the same time.
Okay, so, technically this isn’t a sex position, but with the wonderful advances in technology we enjoy today, you no longer have to be in the same room (or city, or continent) as your partner to stimulate them with a sex toy. With remote devices and apps that can be controlled by a mobile phone, you and your partner can use a sex toy in whatever position is most comfortable – and erotic – for you.