Happy Masturbation Month

By Nikki Goldstein

It’s coming up to the end of my favourite month of the year, May. Also known as, Masturbation Month. This month of pleasure was introduced as a reaction to Surgeon General Jocelyn Elders being fired by President Bill Clinton for suggesting masturbation be a part of sex education for students.

We are beyond the days of thinking that too much masturbation can send us blind but also haven’t quite yet adopted as a society the activity as a benefit for relationships. It is still somewhat seen as a solo act, but there are more advantages to the old rub and tug or flick of the bean than we think.

Know What You Have and How It Works

It’s one of the most important and vital steps when it comes to a sexual relationship with australian pokies online another person. Before you put your sexual pleasure in the hands of another person, you need to know first what your sexual functioning is all about and what you like individually. We are all so different and there is only one way to work this all out. Some call it trial and error but let’s just call it what it is; masturbation.

A Sexy Way to Communicate With Your Partner

It’s one thing to learn how your own body works but it’s another thing to communicate that with a partner. Sex can often be a difficult topic to discuss with someone and asking what we want in the bedroom can be an uncomfortable task. We also fear that we may offend our partner by blatantly asking for what we want. So why not play show and tell ……. It’s a way of sexy communication and also foreplay too. Kill two birds with one stone or with one stroke.

Too Tired For Sex?

It’s often a complaint many couples make these days with busy lives getting in the way of partnered sex. Too tired? Not enough energy? Well as long as your hands still work you are in luck. Plus,  you know exactly what gets you over the edge and you have a simple solution to sexy time. It might not be sex in the traditional sense but that doesn’t mean it’s not a way to connect, experience orgasms, be intimate and enjoy the same pleasures involved. Why not try mutual masturbation when time is short or energy is running low but the desire still persists. Couples that masturbate together, stay together.

Sexual Compatibility

Besides a lack of time impacting sexual relationships, couples sometimes have a desire disconnect that puts pressure on their sexual relationship. One person might be in the mood whilst the other person is ready for bed or already asleep. There are ways to work on these issues but there is also a quick fix and simple solution in the meantime. Your sexual pleasure should not always be the responsibility of someone else. This is where masturbation might be your best 5 fingered (best)friend. There are times for compromises and then there are times to take matters into your own hands.

There are so many benefits to this once and still, at times, criticised act, but there is one important rule to keep in mind – there are no rules. This is a solo act with no right or wrong and is personalized to your preferences. It might take some experimentation and practice to work out what your own set of rules for masturbation might be, so what are you waiting for? Hop (or stroke or flick or rub) to it!

Nikki Goldstein holds a Bachelor’s Degree in Psychology, a Postgraduate Diploma in Counseling and a Doctorate of Human Sexuality from San Francisco’s esteemed Institute for Advanced Study of Human Sexuality; and is a highly credible authority on the topics of love, sex, dating, romance and relationships.


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